When we were coming inside yesterday afternoon, there were all sorts of conflict happening and half a dozen pouting faces. Since we were about to have our end of the day group time, I put the book aside and we talked about some problems. It seemed like the children were focused on pointing out what was wrong, so we started there. I asked, "What is a problem that you are having?"
Al: Yu shouted at me.
Yu: I was trying to get out of the boat and Jo didn't move.
Jo: Yu pushed me.
Jos: I didn't play with Lou.
Me: Yu scratched me.
Lo: Someone roared at me!
Ya: I saw that Me, she was sad, and my heart was hurt.
This conversation made me a little nervous in the sense that fingers were being pointed and names were being used, but anonymity isn't a concept we have discussed. No one got defensive; no one got angry that they were being "told on", and no one misunderstood the topic. There actually seemed to be a number of problems that the children wanted to get out in the open. Ya's comment about her heart struck me - her problem was not a physical one, or even a visible one at that. But she took her friend's problem on as her own in a different way.